So, you think you’re a “No Limits Slave?” Far too many people use this phrase without really giving it the real consideration it deserves. In many cases, the idea of being a no limits slave is a scary thrill and, in most cases, it is because their minds have not even begun to scratch the surface of what could actually happen. I am going to address two specific aspects of those who post about being a No-Limit Slave – one being those who make this claim and then immediately list a bunch of limits and the other being those who make this statement without really understanding the true scope of what they’re saying.

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Contradictory Statements

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I cannot even begin to count the number of profiles I come across with statements like: “I am a no limits slave, I will do absolutely everything and anything my Master commands” and then, sometimes even within the same sentence completely contradict the statement by giving limitations. “I will do everything my Master orders as long as it doesn’t cause permanent marks or involve piss play or [Insert anything].” Words are important; they carry a lot of weight and meaning and are incredibly important when trying to convey details between D-type and s-type who want to engage in kink. Ensuring that all parties involved have a crystal clear understanding of expectations, wants, desires, fantasy vs. reality, and limitations is absolutely imperative when engaging in BDSM especially when that crosses into Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) and Edge Play.

If you have ANY limitation, no matter how simple, that means you are, by default, NOT a “no limits slave.” This is perfectly fine, it’s not a bad thing that you have limitations to what you are willing to do… it just means that you should be careful with how you are promoting yourself. Advertising that you’re a no limits slave will attract specific people and when they find out you have limits then you’ve just wasted your time and theirs. The search is hard enough to begin with so ensuring your profiles are clear in what you’re seeking and what you’re willing to give/do will help those searches in the long run.

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If you have any limits then a more appropriate or accurate phrase would be a “slave with few limits” or a “few limits slave.” It’s also perfectly fine to put what those few limits might be in your profile and then you can discuss all the other matters of what you are willing to do in private messages.  There is also the matter of having limits with occasional players, temporary arrangements, and similar but will be happy to become a no limits slave if surrendered as a full-time/live-in/permanent slave to an owner.

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Not Understanding the Broad Scope

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Just because you haven’t thought of it doesn’t mean it’s not something that someone else enjoys or wants to do. Far too many times I hear people proclaim they are a “no limits slave” and the moment certain things are mentioned they suddenly realize they didn’t think things through. An alarming number of those profiles usually include statements about being new, lacking experience, or having fairly limited experience in the lifestyle. The moment I see someone’s profile claim no limits/being new it immediately raises a red flag. I love to point out all the things that someone could think to do and almost always I get: “I hadn’t thought of that” and a few times I’ve seen people revise their profile as a result.

Often times submissives and slaves get so focused on all the fantasies, especially those that they think are edgy, they often fail to realize that there are a lot of things out there that people can think of or actively engage in that are even more extreme.

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To Each Their Own – Don’t Be Judgmental

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What one person considers extreme may be what another person considers pretty mild. What one person finds “disgusting” another person may find incredibly thrilling. There are too many profiles out there that claim they have limits of “nothing too disgusting” or if they’re talking to someone and hear something they don’t like they say things like “that’s gross” or “that’s fucked up.” In the lifestyle we have an expression: Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That’s Okay (YKINMYATO). Essentially, even if you think it’s the grossest thing don’t say it because it might be something that someone else likes. Just say it’s not your thing and move along. Also, don’t use vague (and obnoxious) statements like “nothing too disgusting” because, again, what you think is disgusting might be someone else’s biggest kink. Not to mention that “disgusting” isn’t a clear statement so you should use actual examples.

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EXTREME KINKS

I am going to list some of the things that are on the more extreme side as examples. This doesn’t mean these are things I am into, it doesn’t mean I am judging or condoning anyone into (or opposed to) these things. It is simply a list of things that I know have been done, sought after, and enjoyed by people that those who put “no limits” may not have considered so it will give you something to think about.

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TABOO

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The subject of taboo fetishes/kinks can vary but typically these are considered under the overall taboo heading:

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• Race/Gender Play – typically intended to mock, humiliate, or abuse someone based on their gender or race. This can include a select few trans people who wish to have their gender identity used against them. DO NOT ASSUME ALL TRANS PEOPLE WANT TO BE A FETISH OR TREATED IN THIS MANNER.

• Scat/Brown Showers – this can include licking a dirty hole/tongue as toilet paper, licking/consuming shit, or wearing/smearing shit onto a person

• Incest – real or even role play dynamics but not necessarily Daddy(Mommy)/baby girl(boy) as that is something else. There are times, though, that people specifically want to develop relationships that are as close to an incest type such as a younger partner seeking only older partners older enough to be their parent. Not just parent/child but cousins, Uncle/Aunt/niece/nephew, siblings, and so forth.

• Bestiality – which is, obviously, sex with animals – be aware that this can entail any kind of animal, including insects

• Pos/Making Pos (Also called “Bug Chasing”) – Someone who is otherwise negative of STD/I but wants to engage in unprotected sex for the express purpose of putting themselves at risk of or actively seeking to be made positive, including HIV. This could include Bare-backing (sex without a condom)

• Illegal Acts – this can be a little tricky or “broad in scope” because what is illegal in one place may be legal elsewhere. In the US what’s illegal in one state may be perfectly acceptable in another state – bestiality for example. Many states have different laws regarding this whether it’s making bestiality porn, owning bestiality porn, engaging in bestiality acts, and so forth – each “aspect” has its own set of laws, and each state those laws vary. So someone making an all-encompassing statement of “nothing illegal” could still be left up to a lot of interpretation. Prostitution is another such issue. Some places in the world (and even a very select few places in the US – primarily Nevada) have legalized prostitution. While being “loaned out” to someone is one thing actually being expected to have “sex for money” is the specific matter here. Even “underage” can be a tricky matter because while most states (and the federal government of the US) consider the age of consent to be 18 there are, in fact, some states (32 to be exact) where 16 is the legal age. This gets EVEN trickier because while 16 may be the age of consent you can STILL get into trouble if there are sex acts involved (it’s a complicated thing – and don’t take this as some encouragement to engage in sex acts with youngsters, I’m just pointing out the trickiness of the laws and what REALLY is legal and not).  In other parts of the world age of consent is 15 or, even in some places, as young as 12 with the youngest being 11 (in Nigeria)!

• Rape/Kidnap (or Consensual Non-Consent/ConNonCon) – Another topic that is often debated is can an act really be non-consensual if someone has given consent, expects something specific such as rape/kidnap to happen, or has given generalized consent with the knowledge that something like rape can/will happen or have even specifically requested or entirely orchestrated the scenario. We’re not getting into that debate here. Suffice it to say, some people want to experience these (and other) acts with someone wanting it to be a very clearly set-up role play with very distinct and adhered-to parameters while others have the fantasy of being kidnapped and/or raped out of the blue and it being completely real. This obviously goes up, through, and around the “illegal” aspects.

 

OTHERS

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Other kinks/fetishes that are on the more extreme end of the spectrum include:

• Vomit – this can be vomiting on someone or being made to vomit, including being throat fucked to gag and vomit.

• Nail/staples through body parts – I’ve seen breasts and balls be nailed or stapled through to boards, pussy lips stapled together, and other such things.

• Hooks/Needles – much the same as above and many people do not consider needles to be “extreme” but since there’s a good portion who do I am including it. Meat hooks are also a thing that people enjoy and even find to be spiritual. There is needlework that is incredibly beautiful and elaborate but this type of play can be very scary to some.

• Sewing – kind of in-between the nails/staples and the hooks/needles is the sewing of body parts fetish. This is exactly what it sounds like – taking needle and thread (sometimes both can be rather thick) and sewing designs onto a person’s body or physically sewing closed something such as the mouth or pussy lips to “close” the pussy.

• Knives/Guns/Weapons – again, this is something that many do not consider “extreme” while others are incredibly fearful. Knife play can be mild from just lightly tracing a knife across the skin to use in sensation play to actually intending to cut someone to using it to specifically cut designs (like branding) into the skin. Gun-Play can be with a real gun, a fake gun (that is clearly fake or looks real), and even a situation where the other person doesn’t know if the gun is real or fake. Typically there’s never any intention of shooting the person as that isn’t the fetish, per se. It’s the “threat of violence” and the “fear” fetishes that are typically the ones being engaged.

• Blood – while the previous three items listed above often can result in blood I am putting it as its own limit. Blood can happen in so many ways and this is often a big deal to people. There could be medical concerns such as someone being on blood thinners or health concerns because blood can easily transmit innumerable diseases. It could be that certain people faint at the merest sight of blood. Whatever the reason, any kind of bloodletting is often considered a more extreme level of play and often even requires special permission to be done when at play events/parties.

• Branding/Marking – since the obvious purpose of branding/marking is to cause a long-term/permanent mark this is something that many people find extreme given the permanence of the mark, especially marks that are meant to convey ownership. Cell popping is also under this category although it can fade after a few months.

• Dismemberment – YES!!!! There are people who specifically ask for this. While it is typically something that is incredibly difficult to do in reality there are people who wish for this to happen to whatever extent. Odds are this is far too impractical to actually happen but there are people who talk about it. There was a movie about this called Boxing Helena (1993). There are even those into cannibalism/vore (role-play and those who try to do it for real) – those who want to be the meat and those who want to be the eater.

• Castration – A surprising number of people wish to be castrated/nullified. While also difficult to do in reality it is, in fact, not impossible. There are ways to do it (chemically or surgically) and there are medical people who will perform this. THIS IS NOT THE SAME THING AS BEING A MTF TRANSWOMAN

• Punching/Beating – Pretty straightforward on what this means and it could entail going lightly but there are plenty who want to be “beaten bloody” or repeatedly punched as hard as possible in specific (or anywhere) parts of the body. Also, note that “punching” can also refer to being fisted (vaginally or anally) and having it done so in a punching manner rather than an easy-going thrusting.

• Crash/Wrecks – there was even a movie about this fetish (simply named Crash (1996)). There are those who are aroused by crashing vehicles, getting into accidents, and even being harmed in the process.

 

More Common Kinks That Others May Find “Edgy”

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• Breath-Play – this can be as simple as covering a person’s mouth/nose for a few seconds to actual choking, to elaborate uses that include gear. The gear can be as basic as a plastic bag or saran wrap to full mummification. Either way, many would consider this RACK because of the inherent risk involved, especially if it involves gear that would need to be cut or undone rapidly.

• Public Play/Sex – This is a touchy subject because it starts to encroach on other people’s right to consent. There are very mild versions which are just wearing something under one’s clothes like a remote-controlled vibrator/bullet that is used by the dominant while out and about in public or even wearing some kind of rope tie under one’s clothes. It could be wearing no panties/underwear and having your dominant grope you discreetly in public. It could also go to the extreme of clear and overt sex acts or full intercourse in public, walking in a public street or area naked or in clear kink/fetish attire (such as being walked like a dog while in pup gear). These overt acts are the ones that start to infringe on other people’s right to consent and could even get you into legal trouble and on a sex offender registry. Some people think only of this extreme type of situation and therein give a broad “no public play” limit but don’t always consider that mild and discreet play can be fun and edgy without bothering anyone.

 

The moral of the story is – before you say you’re truly a no-limits slave it’s best to consider these things above and even google keywords like “Extreme Fetishes” or “Extreme Kinks” to get even more ideas of what’s truly out there. It’s okay to make a list of limits for yourself so that you can send it to those you’re speaking with or to post on your profile. It’s okay to also feel that you truly are a no-limits slave as long as you have a very clear understanding of just how extreme things can be with people. Also, just because you say you have no limits doesn’t mean you have to be with or serve someone who is into things that you don’t like and just wait until the better fit comes along.

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Here are a couple of pages that go into some pretty extreme or even lesser-known kinks and fetishes that are worth checking.

 

Love Sense: Kink Closet

Advocate: 22 Terrifying Sexual Fantasies That Must Be Talked About

Advocate: 24 Obscure Kinks and Fetishes of Gay Men
** Not sure why it’s titled specifically for gay men because he things listed here can be for ANYONE (any gender or sexuality)