Distance isn’t an issue for me. I have no roots and enjoy being nomadic, although I have more recently looking to settle down somewhere. I am looking all over the US and have even looked at Ex-Pat living (moving somewhere out of the US). Essentially, distance (regardless of where in the world) is not that big of an issue and it’s really more about compatibility.

 

Speaking of compatibility – it’s important to remember that how we interact and connect with people isn’t the same across the board. I might find that someone has a really great connection or that some of the things they’re really passionate about are far more important to me than some of the more random kinks. I might vibe with you in an entirely different way and that could be some of the things you might not be into wouldn’t even be introduced into the dynamic because of how we vibe. Essentially, I’m going to talk about all the different things I like but I don’t expect someone to be into all of them or to enjoy any of them in with the same gusto I do. It’s very much a case-by-case basis because each person brings their own unique energy and desires to a dynamic and how I respond to each person can easily vary as well. Don’t let the fact that you’re not into this or that stop you from reaching out.

 

SUPER IMPORTANT REMINDER: Not everything will be done or happen all at once. First, it’s pretty much impossible to initiate and institute everything the moment someone submits but, secondly, it’s just no fun. There is fun to be had in slowly introducing kinks and elements to the dynamic over time. And then see if those can be pushed over time as well to explore new boundaries. Submitting doesn’t mean you go from everything you are and everything you’re doing right now to being some kind of nameless, faceless, nude, slave creature on a property in the middle of nowhere and expected to remember every rule, ritual, and protocol by the end of the day – even if that’s your ultimate fantasy. It just isn’t a reality. Anything we discuss is with the expectation that things will be introduced and integrated over time – there will be time for adjustment, to learn, to explore, to make adjustments if necessary, and so forth. Don’t panic.

 

First, it’s important to understand that the core element in the dynamic must be TPE (Total Power Exchange). Most of my biggest kinks are control-based. That means a careful balance of knowing that any/every decision can be made for you but also expecting you to maintain yourself and make basic decisions such as getting dressed. A slave will get dressed on its own and pick what it will wear most days but if I say I want it changed for any reason there is that understanding that it will go change. Small things that can be done inside and outside of the home – like ordering food for you, not taking a bite of food until I start to eat, or otherwise signaling that you’re allowed to begin. Sometimes you won’t eat with me but will wait until I’m done and it can eat after. Those everyday actions where you would just go eat or put on anything you want can now be controlled. These are just some examples but the important fact is that the TPE is the primary thread.

 

 I’m not into extreme pain, blood, needles, flesh/meat hooks, vomit, snot, gaping/prolapse, amputation, gimp/extreme bondage (as the slave should be readily available to serve at a moment’s notice and not make me inconvenienced by having to go unlock/unbind it). I will say, however, that once I settle in a home/property and have more than one slave I will do more bondage such as caging, chains, stocks, and such. 

 

 I love degradation, humiliation, mindfuckery (including hypnosis, gaslighting positive/negative reinforcement of behavior modification, etc.). Many aspects that have a baseline of mental control, sadism, and such. Like making a slave hold its legs open to be smacked rather than using a rope – forcing them to be part of their own punishment. That also includes name-calling and I tend to default to calling slaves “it.” If they’re into misgendering/de-trans then I enjoy using their assigned birth pronouns or deadnaming them. Otherwise, degrading terms like fag/cunt, pig/cow, fuck toy, whore, etc.

  

It’s important to remember that I am not looking for a lover, a friend, or a partner. This isn’t intended to be “it was fun for the week but I don’t feel like it anymore.” This is why I require that anyone genuinely interested ask a lot of questions and be honest with their responses. Despite some people’s ultimate fantasy, there isn’t a “no way out” situation but there is often a lot of hassle if it turns out to be just a flight of fancy rather than a long-term decision. Since I’m not looking for a buddy or a lover there are definitely times a slave can expect to go prolonged periods without conversation or with minimum verbal interaction with me. If it’s still working then it can get its verbal stimulation through that venue.

 

While my ultimate hope and plan is to have a private property with a farm and animals and a couple of slaves that will be independent and have its own income streams so that no one has to work outside the home/dynamic I do understand that some folx need to work for now or even have the desire to keep working. Treating a slave like it’s a slave going out to labor for its master to earn an income is easy enough and there are certainly concessions that can be made to accommodate the work situation (including things to help maintain the sense of ownership even while at work). Slaves with skills or educational backgrounds in areas that I can utilize to help develop in-house income streams are ideal. Website/social media development and maintenance, making videos and doing basic edits, business skills, and so forth are good. Practical skills like construction/handyman/electrical/plumping, massages, woodworking, and so forth are also ideal.

 

One of my most massive fetishes is watching others fuck/get fucked. I’m always actively seeking more than one slave but slaves are hard enough to find, much less a second one. I do like gang bangs, taking to sex theaters and cruising spots, and similar things. I like a slave accepting whatever they’re told to serve and I love to watch.

 

Since even voluntary slavery is not recognized and a slave contract isn’t even worth the paper it’s printed on, I generally don’t make up such things. However, it will sign documents such as a will (if it has any assets), health care proxy, and power of attorney which would grant me legal authority over it. I do keep a list of rules, protocols, expectations, and so forth. This helps ensure that we are both on the same page and there are no “did I tell it this rule?” or excuses that it didn’t know it was/wasn’t supposed to do something. It also is there for me to ensure that I keep the slave in line because a slave that can break rules without punishments will find there’s no reason to follow them and it quickly breaks down the entire dynamic.

 

 It can ask anything and everything it wants to know about me and what life would be like so it can make a fully informed decision of consent because it will be the last decision it makes for itself. I’m not looking for a long online situation but whatever time is necessary is important – but I want to make this point because I don’t want to get into detailed and lengthy chats only to find out you aren’t going to be free to do anything in a real-life setting for a year or more. While I understand that there are obligations (family, work, school, etc.) these things can usually be worked around, and things can proceed to a certain level, but I’m not waiting and having idle chats for a year until your schedule frees up. Further, I will not come to get it, kidnap it, or pay for it to come to me. 

 

 

Those interested in seeing if there’s a match should send the first message with your currently known limits. This is often the best and quickest way to see if there are any immediate compatibility issues.