I’m sure it’s gone largely unnoticed but I very specifically use FtM and trans man/guy as separate terms. When speaking about a hypothetical slave (e.g. “even better if it’s an ftm that hasn’t had top surgery yet”) or to/about someone who has consented to misgendering and/or humiliation specifically I will use FtM. When speaking about myself or any other trans men who haven’t consented to misgendering I will use trans man/guy.

 

What’s the difference?

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Technically, there isn’t any and in the vanilla world, the terms are used interchangeably. For me, however, it’s just one more (albeit subtle) method to humiliate and dehumanize.

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FtM means Female to Male and I use it this way because it’s a lot less personal. It’s more clinical, it’s just describing a gender rather than identifying a person. It also highlights that they aren’t a “real man” (although I actually abhor that term) because it’s putting the emphasis on the act of having been a female and trying to be male.

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Trans man/guy is more empowering and humanizing while also having a sense of being more masculine as well. It’s more identifying as a man (versus a “male” which is, again, more clinical). It isn’t necessarily focused on the effort of having gone from AFAB to male but rather saying – I am a man, I just happen to not be a cis man.

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I love words and how they can be wielded to empower or destroy or how they can be in your face or woven with careful intricacy. I also make it very well known that I love all forms of mind fuckery and this is just one example of that and how something so seemingly innocuous can be used to creep into the unconscious mind.