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How to Email a Dominant

HOW TO ADDRESS YOUR EMAIL:


Dear Miss/Ma’am/Mistress/Mr./Sir/Master/Etc…. <READ THEIR PROFILE to find out if they specifically state how they like to be addressed. If it’s not stated refer to the title they’ve selected in their Username. If all else fails you can’t go wrong with using Ma’am/Sir. By referencing their profile for the proper manner of address you are showing that you:

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  1. Took time on them by reading their profile

  2. Pay attention to detail, which is highly sought after by most dominants

  3. It shows your ability to adhere to basic rules and protocols.

 

BODY OF YOUR MESSAGE:

<Form of address> (re: above) I found your profile very intriguing and wanted to message you in the hopes of communicating with you further. I am very interested to lean more about what you are seeking in the hopes of seeing if I could be a good match for your service. <In saying this you are NOT professing unlimited loyalty and immediate submission where a dominant will normally not take you seriously since, at this stage, you know virtually nothing about each other. By saying things like this you are telling them you are interested in them, what they like, what THEY are seeking without throwing out your laundry list of desires that makes it seem like you’re looking for them to service you.>

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I do not wish to waste any of your precious time so I would like to take this opportunity to express to you that there is something that I feel would be important to a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship between myself and my owner. That is: <By presenting your sissy/foot/whatever fetish here in this manner IF and ONLY IF it truly is something you absolutely cannot live without and would be considered a deal-breaker or bad match if you don’t get it in your relationship you are telling the dominant that you value their time. You are not saying “I WANT this or I want you to do this to me…” you are saying that while you are there to serve them there is this “thing” that you need in your life to feel fulfilled. Most dominants will understand that a sub/slave will have desires of their own but it’s pointless for either of you to continue if there’s that thing that you just can’t live without. If you don’t have that “thing” then leave that entire section out and do NOT mention any of your fetishes.>

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BODY OF EMAIL: IF THEIR PROFILE LISTS SPECIFICS

I see in your profile that you are interested in/seeking <Specifically reference something from their profile to prove you read it.> This matches with the type of service I am seeking and appears we have a good deal in common. <Feel free to reference a few things but don’t get out of control>

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BODY OF EMAIL: IF THEIR PROFILE IS GENERIC:
I was reading your profile but was unsure what type of service you seek. I would be very interested in learning more about how you like to be served and if there are any specific skills or abilities you seek in a sub/slave for your home. I am/can do <list some interesting skills/abilities you have. Are you a licensed masseuse? Are you an accountant? Professional of some kind? Landscaper? Handyman? Mechanic? This is telling the dominant that you are capable and have skills that could benefit them in some way.> However, I am prepared to learn any new skills that my owner desires so that I could continue to benefit them and be of the utmost service. Are there any specific skills you are seeking for your household so that I may begin to look into them and become better versed in what you desire? <You can access a great deal of information online to begin learning about new skills. If they respond and let you know, actually take the next step and begin reading about it. If you have the funds, take classes, ask friends who know about the skill to teach you, etc.>

 

IN CLOSING:
I do not wish to consume your time as I understand your time is very important and I appreciate that which you’ve already granted me just by reading this email. I sincerely look forward to hearing back from you at your convenience and will be happy to respond in turn in a prompt manner.

Thank you for your time.

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Sincerely
Your Name

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Keep it short and sweet. Most dominants (especially females) get a LOT of emails so a short but well-configured introduction will stand a better chance at gaining their attention. SPELL CHECK, SPELL CHECK, GRAMMAR CHECK, SPELL CHECK!!!! This cannot be emphasized enough!!! Many internet browsers come with built-in spell checkers – USE THEM. One of the best FREE add-ons you can use for Word, browsers, and other programs is GRAMMARLY.  Don’t be afraid to use your word processing program, write your note, perform spell check, and then manually re-read it. Spell check will only tell you when words are spelled incorrectly. It will NOT tell you if a word is missing or spelled correctly but is not the correct word you wanted. However, Grammarly WILL tell you when the sentence structure or the word appears to be off or incorrectly used. An email with proper spelling and grammar will make reading your email easier on the dominant and shows, again, attention to detail, pride in work, and some basic level of education.

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In the end, no one is perfect, and a mistake here or there isn’t the end of the world. What’s important, however, is that a sense of effort comes through in the message. People are far less inclined to communicate with any real detail or effort and if you cannot expend even a modicum of effort or thoughtfulness in just sending an email it’s a big indicator that you will likely be a lazy slave in all other areas. Consider this: your first email is the same thing as meeting someone for that first impression or that first job interview. Shine bright from the start.

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