I am a trans guy who has been in the kink scene for over 25 years. I advocate for all equality regardless of race, gender, age, sexuality, etc. I have been the director of communications for a TGNC non-profit, I do speaking engagements for kink and LGBT+ visibility. I have even written a book on the lifestyle. I am a major advocate for consent (and personal responsibility). 

 

I enjoy a LOT of kinks. Among those is being a trans guy into misgendering other trans guys. Pregnancy. CNC. And all those things. But I also like to follow other trans folx because we're all together in this crazy journey. I do NOT believe that every trans person should be misgendered or de-transitioned, I do NOT believe every woman should naturally submit to men, and I do NOT believe "all/every" anything. I do, however, steadfastly believe that no one has the right to be a kink-shamer or gatekeeper. That means if someone enjoys a kink that you don't enjoy you don't get to talk shit about them or the kink - just simply be an adult and ignore it. This "DNI" (Do Not Interact) warning shit is ridiculous - if someone follows you that enjoys things you don't, big fucking deal - if you don't follow them back then you won't see their content and your delicate sensibilities will be spared. Do be aware - even if you block someone, if someone they follow reblogs your stuff that blocked person can still see and reblog your post - you just won't see it (like you wouldn't see it if you just don't follow them in the first place). Also, most of you folx are posting content that, 99% of the time is not even your own so you absolutely do NOT get to dictate who can or can't share content that's not even yours in the first place just because you disagree with a kink. This is a public space - either deal with that, make your blog private, use the block feature, or reassess even being on social media platforms in the first place but, either way, get off your gatekeeping, kink-shaming high horse.

 

Also, most people come here to express themselves in fantasy. They may love to be misgendered or engage in race play or rape play or any other number of things on here in a safe, "fake" environment and then go about their lives with no genuine desire for any of these things to happen in real life. Other people are active in their desires and want these things or more to happen to them - that they've discussed with the other person(s) and consent to. I happen to enjoy both fantasy and real life. 

 

Remember, consent is the key thing here. If someone consents to enjoy race play - good for them. If someone consents to enjoy being misgendered, good for them. If someone consents to want to be fucked while sleeping, good for them. But making posts on your blog that people into this kink or that kink are fucked up or disgusting to you or - amazingly, "should just die" is not just brazenly hypocritical it makes you a raging asshole. Yes, you have the power to engage your blocking functions but that doesn't block your attitude problem about how you handle other people who enjoy things differently. ' STOP telling people their kinks are nasty, wrong, fucked up, or in any other shame them for their desires. Respect them the way you want to be respected - end of story.