So this came up recently when I was reading a profile on fet where the person's profile showed them as MtF so naturally, I went over to see their profile as I always like to follow fellow trans folks (because AGAIN - while I love to misgender and fuck with someone it's only because they're into it too but otherwise I don't tolerate ignorance and bullshit). And right there in the profile, they wrote they're a biological male that likes to dress as a woman. So, let's dissect this but FIRST A DISCLAIMER - I am not trying to force people to identify in any specific way and I'm tolerant of how lose the language is being used in the world today but for fuck sake there are words with definitions for a fucking reason. Also, using certain words interchangeably (like a sissy and trans woman) leads to intolerance, misunderstanding, and oftentimes violence (and murder) against trans people.

1 - "biological" stop using this term. We are all fucking biological Further, the scientific community (who rarely gives a shit about LGBT+ genetics) has not come to any conclusion that being LGBT+ is or isn't a genetic trait. Until there is empirical and scientifically reviewed and confirmed results stating that it's NOT genetic stop using limiting and dehumanizing (I know, the irony of that here on this site) terms like "biological" because it makes it seem like TGNC people are somehow not human. The term that is most appropriate is "cis" which means that you were assigned a gender at birth and are happy and live without mental conflict and wish to continue to identify as that gender. 

 

2 - Being TGNC is a massive spectrum with people learning who they are as early as kindergarten or as late as 70s+ and it's not just trans women and trans men. There's a slew of genders and associated terms. THERE IS NO FUCKING GENDER BINARY. Also, this is seen not just in humans but other species. This is a scientific fucking fact, use that "highly intelligent" human brain and fucking deal with it.

 

3 - Here's the big point of the matter. Trans people often have to deal with a lot of emotional, mental, and physical stress whether coming to terms with themselves about their identity, coming out to others, and how they wish to express their identity. We run INCREDIBLE risks of assault and murder and this is especially true for trans women and trans women of color are the most at-risk for being murdered. WE ARE MURDERED FOR BEING OURSELVES!!!!! Get that into your fucking head - especially you cis white guys who seem to make up 99% of the sissy/cd community. If you get hard because you put on women's clothing or are spoken to/treated as a woman (that's the next tab point) then you have a sissy/cd FETISH and you are NOT TGNC. You absolutely can be TGNC and get off on these things or, as my blog and so many others show - you can be TGNC and get off on being misgendered. But if you do not actually identify as a gender other than what you were assigned at birth and just like it because it makes your dick hard and can just put on/off your costume whenever you feel like it then you have a fetish and not a gender identity. When you misidentify especially on kink, dating, or social media pages you are making it so much harder for TGNC people, especially trans women, to not be tormented, abused, or even outright real-life tortured and murdered. Also, the basic common sense part here too is that if you're misidentifying then you're just making it harder for you to find the right partner/players/whatever for yourself. (Yes, I'm aware many explore with sissy/cd and discover they are trans through this process and that's fine. I do NOT have an issue with people who are sissy/cd and if they discover a deeper part of themselves through kink WONDERFUL! I have an issue with people using TGNC terms when they're really talking about fetishes).

 

4 - I, PERSONALLY (me, this is my opinion) hate when cis (usually het and white) men like to be used/dressed (or use/dress others) as a woman because it's "degrading" or "humiliating" and they feel that being treated in such ways is just naturally associated with being a woman. THIS SHIT VIEW OF WOMEN BY DEFAULT IS UNACCEPTABLE! Women are equals. Women are powerful beings. Women deserve your goddamn respect for being a fellow human beings. The mentality that being female naturally equates to being humiliating or less-than is appalling and the kink community sadly embraces this because not doing so then causes the issue of kink-shaming, which we shouldn't do either. I'm not saying you shouldn't get off on cross-dressing. I'm not saying you shouldn't get off on being degraded and humiliated. These are my favorite things actually. What I am saying is - YOU SHOULD NOT ASSUME FEMALE = LESS.

 

Okay, I'm done with my rant. Back to our regularly scheduled perving.