There is a wealth of information for free on the Internet and library. These are amazingly untapped by those seeking to serve. Some key topics a wishful slave should have, at the very least, a working understanding of is:

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House cleaning – this is a MAJOR part of a slave’s life (at least in my household though I’m sure in many others). While you should ALWAYS adhere to the way your owner wants you to do it you should still know how to polish silver, wash clothes properly (i.e. separate delicates, hand-wash items, by color, etc), what type of cleaners to use on different surfaces, and so forth. Surprisingly, more and more people seem to be unskilled in just knowing how to operate basic household items like an iron, stove/oven, laundry machines, etc. If you’re unsure now is the time to learn (if not for your owner then for yourself because… seriously…)

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Shopping Assistant – some owners may not care what your opinion is but being able to present items to your owner that may be of interest to them because you’ve learned about style, matching, clashing, and so forth may pique their interest. In fact, you may be taught by them to become their personal shopper so that they can send you to the store to purchase items on their behalf. This is a far less used service these days with online shopping being such a massive part of our lives but it certainly doesn’t hurt to brush up a bit. This is a great skill to hone while you’re in service to someone by paying close attention to the likes and dislikes of your owner so if you were sent to the store for a last-minute item or even common grocery shopping you can do so with confidence.

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Manners, Manners, Manners – Most people don’t like someone who doesn’t have proper manners and really it’s an increasingly lost art. In Jude’s household all slaves will be trained in manners and etiquette, but having some of these skills is a bonus to anyone. Go to the source of best behavior: Emily Post Institute where you can study up on all kinds of proper behavior. (Or check their YouTube Channel) Again, always adapt to what your owner wants but going into a meeting (or even starting that one email that could lead to something) your manners will shine through. This also includes dinner protocol privately and with guests – although it does not cover BDSM protocol so brush up on that as well as an additional skill. You can find resources for this if you search “BDSM High Protocol”.

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Massage – This is extremely common and while every owner differs in HOW they like to be rubbed almost everyone loves a good massage. Read up, watch videos, and if you can afford it – take a class or get a few massages for yourself to get a sense of what feels good. Learn about different styles so you can handle anything from working out hard knots to sensual and soothing.

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Handyman – many owners may already have someone to handle this, (spouse, other slave, paid service, etc) but that doesn’t mean you should count on not having to do it. You should familiarize yourself with basic care care and household repairs. An owner that doesn’t have to worry about the oil change coming up because their handy little slave did it (or at the very least took it in – refer to next comment) or fixing little things around their home is a great help. Especially for those living in a purchased home as maintaining it and even developing it adds value to the household and, therein, enhances your owner’s living. This also includes car washing and similar services.

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Organization/Attention to detail – This is an absolute must in my household and I’d imagine organizational skills would be key for any slave it’s just up to the owner’s on how in-depth they want their slave to be. As mentioned above – pay attention to the details. Track the maintenance work on vehicles and ensure they are taken for service (or do the service yourself if you can) when needed. This, of course, is up to the owner as it’s a matter of finances (see next comment). Remember your owner’s birthday and other important dates (if they are married or significantly with someone remember their anniversary). Also remember the dates of those special to your owner (a siblings birthday, parents anniversary, etc). Reminding your owner (if they assign this task to you) when an important date comes up could be a key skill. This includes doctor’s appointments and so forth and you may be required to handle scheduling a variety of appointments for them, as well  – mixing up appointments and double-booking is a big no-no. But this also plays a key role in attending to the household as well. Being constantly attentive to details will help you notice if anything is amiss in the household that should be tended to. (See Technology for more)

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Finances – Many owners, especially when dealing with slaves (versus submissives) will handle all of the finances of a household. Whatever your personal arrangements with your owner are (you surrendering all of your paychecks each week, you maintaining your own account, you not working, etc) you must ALWAYS be mindful of any expenses you are generating or that will be required if you are performing a task (i.e. taking the car in for service). Don’t ever assume that the owner will “okay” an expense because “it’s for them” but check in advance if it’s okay to make this expenditure. If you have your own finances and wish to use your own money to do this then that may be more acceptable and may not require checking ahead of time, but this is something to clarify with your owner early into your “courting” period.

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Technology – Thankfully there are plenty of apps and devices that can help a household run smoothly. Calendars, to-do lists, car maintenance, really any kind of app you can think of there’s bound to be one. Some of the better apps will function in a variety of ways. With the increase in devices like Alexa/Echo, Google Home, Apple Homekit and such a household can sync and be operated with mere voice commands. Some homes are completely synchronized with online devices and apps such as crockpots that can be operated by your phone, Bluetooth keyless entry to the house, “smart” thermostat devices, and more. Just being aware of the constantly advancing technology can be overwhelming but a slave who is aware and has at least some working knowledge of the various technologies is very important these days. Simply saying “I’m a tech dummy” isn’t going to cut it anymore. While it may not be a deal breaker if you’re tech-illiterate don’t let yourself become obsolete when there’s a tremendous amount of resources (youtube, websites, even library courses) available to help you learn. If you are skilled in this area this is something to let your dominant know early on. If you’re so skilled in this area that you can easily make the dominant’s life completely connected and synced this is definitely something you want to put up front as a valuable skill.

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Anti-Technology – Alternatively, there are people who do not want to be completely “Jacked in” or who enjoy a certain level of connectivity but also still value their privacy. Being aware of privacy protection methods such as VPNs, pirate browsers, and similar services is equally important these days. Jude is in this area – connected and well-versed with computers and technology but aware of the ever-disappearing privacy and takes steps to increase privacy whenever possible.

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Cooking/Nutrition – This is a highly valued skill and while some people absolutely love to cook many owners may opt to hand over all cooking/meal planning to you. This is also where finances and organizational skills come into play. Do not grocery shop willy-nilly but rather learn to make a meal plan for a week that covers all those in the household. Generate the meals, create a shopping list, and see if your owner wants final approval. Again, technology can be a big help here in that you can shop online for pick-up/delivery or you can make lists through your grocery store’s website to get an idea of how much your expenses will be. Additionally, technology access to a wide range of recipe sites (including those for specific dietary needs) or bigger/varied sites like Tasty should be utilized and considered important tools.

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Miss Abernathy/Other BDSM lifestyle books – Unfortunately the Abernathy books have skyrocketed in price so it may take some exploring to find someone who has a copy to lend you or to locate a copy at an “old/used” book store unless you don’t mind paying around $60 for a tiny book. There are other books similar to this but what I liked most about the Abernathy books was it was full of quizzes and other tasks that a slave can do to help them narrow down their key points, and weakest areas, and teach them attention to detail. Knowing where your service is strong is one thing, but knowing where it’s weakest is another and then you can focus on where you need to learn.

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Profiles – As I tend to see an alarming number of these (particularly in the male profiles) another helpful tip. DO NOT HAVE CREEPY PIX. Seeing you looking somewhat psychotic and/or holding a weapon of some kind is NOT appealing to an owner. In fact, it screams “Run away! Run away!” to us. You should appear well-groomed and “put together” in your pictures as this is oftentimes the first and only impression you’ll leave on an owner. Many of us who receive your emails will review your profile/pictures to see if it’s even worth responding. In some cases, we can see your main picture/avatar before we even open your email and if it’s super creepy there’s a good chance we will just delete it unread. If your profile screams creepy, psycho, or a total mess then many will opt out before you can even start.

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Additionally, sex-parts pictures being your main image or the majority of your images tells a potential owner that all you’re interested in is getting yourself off. While there are definitely some people who truly love and adore cocks, balls, pussy, assholes, etc. the vast majority of us are really not as enamored with your junk as you are. A few well-shot pictures of your ‘assets’ are fine if you keep them off your main picture.

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Personal Grooming – Learn about manicures, pedicures, and facials for your owners, and not just exclusive to female owners. Men need some grooming in this department too. Many times this type of service is strictly that – service… it’s pampering… it’s showing your owner that you adore them and want to do everything you can to show that. Having knowledge (or learning) how to cut hair (men/women) or basic styles (such as braids) are also important skills. Additionally, you may be called upon to perform more intimate grooming such as hair trimming/removal in the more intimate areas. This also goes for you as well and it’s something I touched on in previous threads. Your hair should be maintained and while your owner may dictate it’s length, style, and color later on you should present yourself in a clean and cared-for manner. Eyebrows should be groomed (there should be two of them) and please don’t come at us looking like Abe Vigoda. Your clothing should not be rumpled, stained, clashing, and parts of your body should not be hanging out of places it shouldn’t be. Whether you’re skinny as a rail or big as a house there’s likely an owner for you – but that doesn’t mean you can present yourself like a disgusting slob. And remember, you are always a representation of your owner. Looking a mess tells the world that you don’t care about your owner or how your appearance reflects on them. Don’t be vain, but be aware.

 

Specialized Skills – Slaves who claim to have knowledge or experience in any of the above-mentioned areas is not entirely uncommon. However, an owner is always looking for someone who may have that “special” something. To help give you an edge learn something not overly common. In my household, someone who has web designing skills to help maintain this website or create others is something of extra interest to me. Do you have a degree in something? Are you a finance wiz who can enhance the household budget and help it run smoothly and even gain assets? Are you in marketing so you can help develop ideas and bring to fruition ideas your owner has?

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It’s about US not you – When you try to contact me (or any new potential owner) remember we want to hear about how you can benefit US, not how we can serve you!!! That means we don’t want a laundry list of your kinks (and that includes disguising them under descriptions of “experience”) unless specifically asked. If you’re not in it to serve because serving is your number 1 true passion then you shouldn’t apply (to me specifically). Everything else you “enjoy” is a benefit and should be seen as a reward for excellent service not an expectation of what will happen daily/weekly simply because you submitted to your owner.

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It boils down to – LEARN LEARN LEARN. Use the free resources and do your own personal testing, drills, and education to better yourself. Fine tuning yourself in this manner will make you prime goods for an owner and you’ll stand a much better chance finding an owner as you’ll not only have a lot more to offer but you’ll also know how to properly interact within the BDSM community as a whole.