Ranting Examples Specific examples of why you’re not succeeding with me (or others in general)

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I really shouldn’t need to include some of these things but I’m tired of saying the same thing to each potential slave only to have the same issues time and again. I can’t make it any easier or any more straightforward for a potential slave. If, at any time, during our communications, you feel that this is not the right match for you then simply saying so is appreciated. Ghosting or blocking is just childish and ridiculous. 

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• If reading this page (and this website) is a pain in the ass or not your speed then you will not fit in with what I’m looking for right off the bat.

• While we will talk about many exciting and sexual things remember that reality exists and a slave will spend most of its day tending to boring and tedious things. If this is not what you want then odds are you’re a submissive or just someone who wants scenes/play and not a full-time slave situation. 

 

The number one reason for a slave failing to get beyond basic email exchanges is that I find I’m the only one doing all the asking and getting-to-know work. While I appreciate that there are things we will learn from being around each other there’s still a lot about people that can be learned from active exchanges/messages. A slave should be just as (or even more so) interested in learning about me as a person and as a dominant. A slave should know everything there is to possibly know about their potential owner to determine if this is the right fit and to learn how to serve as perfectly as possible. Don’t be afraid that you’re prying or asking too much. This is the stage in which we both need to put everything on the table to see what’s what. If there’s something either of us does not want to disclose at this juncture it’s just a matter of saying: “We will revisit this a little later” once a little more trust is developed.

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The other major reason slaves have not gotten too far is an inability to use their brains. While I can appreciate that not everyone is on the same level of intelligence I am not interested in someone who: 

a.        Willfully refuses to use their brain or 
b.        Just cannot learn how to do basic things. 

 

Given the innumerable advantages of using gadgets and apps, there’s little reason a slave cannot do most things.

1. Do not inundate me with gushing messages. I’ve been told and sworn to a million times over that they are the number one slave for me but seeing as I’m still slave-less I can attest that these professions of adoration and sincerity mean nothing to me. In fact, they will tend to work against you. 

2. DO give detailed responses. Do not worry that it’s “too much.” The more details you provide the more I learn about you and the better picture I can form about you and how you would fit into my household. That doesn’t mean digress in a wayward manner but one-liner responses and such are not helpful and will eventually result in my dismissing you from consideration.

3. Pay very close attention to what I say. While I try to be as clear as possible and will sometimes be a bit repetitive in order to make sure the point is driven home I generally do not like having to repeat myself after I feel like something I said was clear enough – MOST especially after I ask a direct question. If I ask a series of questions and only some of them are answered this tells me that you cannot pay attention to even basic details and that’s a big strike against you. Take the time to read and re-read the messages in order to formulate a clear and detailed response in return.

4. Common sense – this is one of my major pet peeves and is a surefire way of annoying or even outright angering me. I would much rather a person take a little extra time to think things through, troubleshoot, or whatever else is needed in order to get through a problem, figure something out, or generally just not do something stupid then to come to me with bullshit. This also means things like informing me ahead of time if you think you will be unavailable online for any extended periods of time (i.e. work, going away, or anything else that would draw your attention for a good portion of the day or more) so that I don’t think you’ve just ghosted. 

5. Forethought and predictive serving – If it’s something that can be looked up online, something that you can learn (there’s always libraries, classes, and online sources), or anything else that would take just a moment of thought it’s always best to err on the side of learning. A slave should always be learning and I will teach a slave many things (outside the typical lifestyle aspects). Taking initiative once they know something I like or something that I’m looking for in a slave to learn those skills is important. This ties in with paying close attention to what I say. Watching and listening to me and paying close attention to those random little nuggets of information will help when it comes time to serve. It won’t hurt to keep a notepad or Word file of things learned so it can be referred to and studied until knowing everything about your owner is like knowing everything about yourself.
    

I tend to test potential slaves often during these exchanges. I test for a great many things to see how they will fit into my space and household. You may never know if you’re being tested so it’s safe to assume everything is a test. I may point out that I’m feeling this is becoming a one-sided conversation by saying things like: “And do you have any questions for me?” Or just out-right saying it’s getting one-sided. I do NOT tolerate “I will just learn about you when we meet” because you will NOT meet me if you don’t know anything about me. If you’re not interested in investing the time online to get to know someone you’re going to surrender to then you are not at all what I’m looking for in a slave.